Last Monday, I went to the Walk Off The Earth concert with my sister and 2 of our cousins. This was the second WOTE concert I’ve been to and I still think they put on the best concerts ever. The only opening act this year was a 19-year-old named Scott Helman and he said something that stood out to me since he was basically saying I was weird. He was going to play his song called Cry Cry Cry and said it goes out to anyone who’s been through a break up and if you haven’t been through one that was a little weird but the song still goes out to you.
Being someone who is 23 and still never been in a relationship the comment bothered me a little. I’m sure he didn’t mean anything by it and I still bought his CD and followed him on social media, but it made me think. Yes, I wish I would have been in some sort of relationship by now and that each birthday that passes I hope it’s the year that finally happens but I don’t consider myself weird because of this fact. There are a lot of other things that make me weird like the fact that I had a crush on Twister, a cartoon character from Rocket Power when I was younger.
Maybe if I didn’t have social anxiety I might consider this fact weird but since I can’t even think about talking to any males without getting nervous I don’t think it’s weird. Throughout high school and most of college, I just thought cute boys would magically appear and start talking to me and then we’d magically be in a relationship just like in the movies. Now that I’ve finally realized this isn’t going to happen, I’ve turned to online dating which still isn’t going too well but at least I know that I need to do something if I want it to happen.
It also made me wonder if any other guys that want to date me would get turned away because of it. I know what you are thinking, if I find the right guy it won’t matter. When you are a virgin at my age, what are they going to think when you haven’t been kissed either. Maybe from a guys’ perspective it would be considered weird. Although not according the a few of the girls on the Bachelor last year but I don’t think I’d want to listen to any of them on the subject. I guess we’ll have to wait until I get into a relationship to find out but until then I’ll be attempting (and mainly failing) at online dating.
This post is a little different than I usually do. I always thought I didn’t really have anything exciting to blog about in the lifestyle category but if it’s something that makes me think, isn’t that part of my life too? I’d love to hear your thoughts!
I didn’t really start dating until 24. Before that, I had one boyfriend in high school that consisted of two trips to a movie, a few gifts, and calling each other boyfriend/girlfriend for 3 months. (In other words, I don’t really count it.) What I learned when I finally did start dating (through online sites) was that guys don’t really care about your past as much as you’d think they were. I didn’t lose my virginity until 25 and although it shocked my husband (then boyfriend) at the time, it didn’t put a stop to our relationship. I don’t regret my slow track to the dating world one bit – I think it made me better prepared to be in a relationship because I knew myself so well. (P.S. —> anytime you need to share online dating weirdo stories, feel free to get in touch. I have plenty to share!)
Wow, did I write this post? I’m 21 and I’ve never even come close to being in a relationship. I have social anxiety as well so I definitely know where you’re coming from. For the most part I don’t mind, but when all of my friends are in relationships I think it’d be nice to be in one too to have someone to spend time with. I might have to give online dating a try, but I’m nervous about that too!
Our day will come though, I’m sure! I just try not to focus on it and it will happen someday.
– Lauren Schroer // http://www.laurenschroer.com
It’s so awesome to find someone that knows exactly how I feel. It’s nice to have people in relationships share why it’s not that bad and their experiences but sometimes it’s nice to find someone that understands! Our day will definitely come someday! It you ever want to talk or share awkward moments with boys feel free to reach out to me! XD