One thing I’ve always had bad luck with is friends. I’ve had so many friends stop talking to me after getting a boyfriend. I’ve even had a friend that got so mad at another friend about abandoning her friends for her boyfriend but then as soon as she got her first boyfriend…she did the same exact thing.
I can understand if you spend a little less time with your friends once you are in a relationship but I would just slowly start hanging out with them less and less. I tried to stay friends with them but they would just come up with a stupid excuse so they could hang out with their boyfriends instead. I really don’t think I can count how many of my friends stopped talking to me once they got a boyfriend. I only have one friend from high school that I’m still close with.
I’ve always wondered if it has something to do with me or it just has to do with bad choice in friends. It did a lot of damage on my confidence throughout high school. Even in college, I still don’t really have a best friend. I have a few friends I’ve made in college but not as many as I’d hope for.
This is kinda a short post but I’m writing this post at midnight and I have to work tomorrow morning! I hope you all had an awesome weekend. I know I had a lot of fun.
Hi Emily! I just recently started reading your blog, and one thing I love about it is that you are very “real”. This subject hits home for me, because this has happened to me numerous times. Being in college, it seems that having a boyfriend is the only thing girls care about, and it’s saddening to see when they put their significant other before true friends and school. When I started dating my current boyfriend making time for my friends has been a priority to me. Life is all about a healthy balance. Your friend or friends will see what they’re losing, when things are not convenient for them. I’m sorry you are going through this, but I hope you know their are people in this world who value friendship just as much as you, and they will come into your life when you least expect it. Hope you have a great week!
Emily, I totally feel you on this. One of my friends a few years ago started dating this guy and they were hanging out constantly. She slowly started talking to me and my other friends less and began hanging out with him more.
Honestly in your situation, I don’t think it has one bit to do with you. Girls just get caught up in the whole dating thing and don’t realize they need their friends until something terrible happens. Just try to lend out a hand and let her know you’re still there for her and that your friendship still means a lot to you!